Tips: How to be content with oneself

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Everybody feels worthless at one point of time, I have, she has, he did. Even the one whom you think has a perfect life has her own blues to deal with. Happiness is something you create not something you go after. The best way is to be content with who you are, what you have, who you have. Here are a few ways that could actually help you to.

1. Accept yourself:

First learn to deal with your insecurities, know that this is how people actually keep  making you think of yourself lowly. So make peace with it. You should realize that you are wonderfully and fearfully made. Know that you are an unique piece of art, your flaws are what defines you don't let people look down on you because of them, remember how beautifully the wild flower grows from the places you thought were dead. You are that wild flower that can make it through whatever you are going through.

2. Differentiate your needs and wants:

You feel sad when you don't have what your friend has, what is trending, what is fashionable but know that not everything you want is your need. Once you learn to differentiate it you will make you more satisfied with your life, with yourself. Invest in your needs and don't let people rule your life. Remember it is your life, you do what you want to not because someone else thinks you should.

3. Social lies:

Know, not every happy face you see in your Instagram page has that awesome life. You know that it feeds you with lies with edited version of happiness. Even you might be guilty of it but deep down you know all you are doing is living in the make belief world of your own. So try to love, to live the moment that you cannot frame it. Don't waste you potentials by comparing it with the beautiful lies of others.

4. Know you are enough:

Stop letting someone validate your reason of happiness, your reason of existence. Stop putting so much efforts on others. Invest in yourself. You will be there for yourself when everybody leaves.
You stay, even if to just bare the pain but you stay. So take time and love yourself, you will be the best friend you will ever need.

5. Things will fall in place:

People may be unhappy with what they are going through right now, may be dealing with similar to death like experience emotionally or physically. But be content that this is just a phase, good or bad it will pass and one fine day every trouble you went through will make sense, and things will fall into place.

Tips: Why taking time is better than breaking up

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Sometimes some relation mean so much to you, but there comes a phase where you both get confused may be because you both haven't got time to communicate properly you have missed what is going in life of your partner  credits to your busy schedule or could be any other reason but deep down you both know that this relation has more capabilities. Rather then breaking up and moving on take a step back and take time. Give your relation a chance that it deserves. Here are why you should think of it 

1. It gives you time:

Take time away from each other. Let each other get enough time to miss the other one,to long to meet, to call, if you feel like you can go on like this without wanting to meet the other or even call, think within if you ever loved the other one truly?

2. You start to invest more:

when you know what the relation mean to you. You start investing more on what you both are missing. If its your lack of communication, talk to them, know what is going on with them, try to meet up, make plans like you used to, eat together, try to include the other one more in your life, in your day to day activity. Try recreating the old memories. May be going out and proposing the other one will create the magic.

3. You open up:

People usually run away from their responsibility of finding what is bothering them and sorting it out. You never go for a new house just because the lights are broken. You mend them. Just as in situations like this find the root cause of why you both or just one of you feel like it is time to give up. As long as both your hearts are involved make sure you at least go for the last fight. Give chance even if it is just one of you fighting.

4. You realize:

We usually think from our perspective sometimes put yourself in other's shoe and look at the situation. Just because you think someone will be happy doesn't have to be the same way in their thoughts. Realize how much it meant to you at the very beginning, it is the same person you loved with all their flaws. Starting new? Why not do it with the person you fell in love with. Why let go? 

5. Makes you aware of your last fight:

If it matters to you, give your one best shot at it trust me miracles happen, the bridges that burned down still connects you both. I have seen a few so I will say if it matters go for the fight rather then living with the regret, that your ego killed your relation.

Tips: Is It Time To Move On?

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When you are in a relationship, you feel like everything is right in your world if that the relation with that one person is right, or vise versa. When in a relationship you are investing very precious things in it like your time, your effort, you let someone else validate your happiness, but there comes a phase which is just stagnant, where you both don't move forward nor backwards unlike the time when you should move on is when you both are in different page, here are few tips that could help you decide whether you are just in a stagnant phase or it is time to move on. Not all relation go through the same phase, sometimes a step back is also needed just as a step forward is. Taking a step back would be taking some time to realize of which I have discussed in what you both want to do and a step forward would be moving on.

1. Communication:

The priority of the relation is communication. If you don't know what the other is going through, in their day to day life. This does not mean you call them 24 hours a day. When you both can go without talking for several days, not knowing what they have been through or even dead by now. It definitely is a clear hint you should move on if you both are actually doing this to create a distance among you both or may be it is just one of you not responding to the other. There is no one who is so busy that they cannot make an effort to call you or receive your call and have a good conversation may be just for a minute. People who genuinely are busy will at least let you know they are and catch up with you when they can. They wont let you hanging. Relations are about constant care, about little things that put the smile, little gestures, once you  stop feeding it with love, trust, support, care, all the elements that it requires and all you do is end with the corpse of the relation.

2. Instincts:
The very moment when the thought of moving on came in your mind, consider the relation was going down because when you are happy with the relation even if it was just stuck in a phase you don't get thoughts about moving on or dropping the relation. The reason you are reading this may also be hinting towards your sub conscious fear of you realizing it is time to move on. Never let go of your instincts, the inner voice is never wrong.

3. Not in the same page:

When I say not in the same page I mean you are crying yourself to sleep and on the other hand he/she is out there partying. Your emotional level are different. You might come up with excuses he/she never shows her feeling but feelings are always felt, remember when somebody said something very good to make your day, you did feel the genuine feeling right? You always feel it.Don't you think you both are in different page when you say I Love You and he/she replies Thank you? Remember you find love when you aren't looking for it. Many of us find it hard to let go after being associated with someone for a long time, we are afraid of the void, of the absence but more than that the situation where you don't feel happy, at peace or even not feel like yourself, the situation where creating the bond with the self, the very self that you have neglected for a long time now and the relation where your presence is felt should drag your immediate attention. You are worth being loved.
4. The Third:

It is definitely a sign you both should move on when there is involvement of the third person. You only need the the third pillar when the two gets weak, never blame the third pillar, someone wouldn't come in if you both never let anyone come in. When you or your partner have some one who has more priority in your life apart from family than the love of your life. It is time you should move on. Remember you are the finest soul, and just like only  jeweler knows the worth of the diamond, the one right for you will definitely see your worth.

5. Loving Alone:

Yes, we let down ourselves so much to please others especially the ones you love. But in a relationship you cannot love alone no matter how many things you do alone, you are meant to be there for each other, emotionally as well physically, though you can do it on your own, you have been doing it for a while now being there for yourself as well as for her/him.Why pressurize yourself instead invest everything on yourself. You deserve to be loved, and no one loves you more than you do. 

And bear in your mind that this step would be the end of the relationship as you would not want to come back to the same river that you know by its corners and depths, the same river that drowned you and  if come back again it won't take much time for you to realise that it will drown you again. Unless you both are the destined one.