Tips: What to expect from your partner

The higher the expectation the harder it hurts when not fulfilled in reality. So it is better to keep expectation to its lowest but it is necessary to have it. Expectation is giving the thought enough power to ruin your happiness by overlooking at it. We keep expecting, no matter how many times we are let down. It in a way gives us happiness in thinking things to turn out the way we want it to, the best way for that to happen is to speak to your partner clearly. Sometimes we expect things and associate happiness to them but the reality is things only gives us the feeling of happiness but not the genuine happiness. Everybody puts an effort the way they know how to. Here are a few things that you should definitely expect from your partner.

1. Respect:

As it is said respect has to be earned but you should always know that you deserve it from your partner. You should expect them to respect youJust the way they deserve. This not only helps you maintain your position in your relationship. Some couples have huge age difference, but that should not be the reason of treating them with disregard and disrespect just because they are so much younger to you. Making fun of each other in private is cute stuff but doing so when you are in company will unintentionally humiliate the other person. Respect each other not just in your partner's presence but mainly in their absence. It is upto you how you want other people to treat your partner.

2. Trust:

An over possessive partner will ruin the relation by making you feel trapped. Trust is what we should get in a relationship so that we have our own space. You both should realise that you are two individuals in love, and individuality is only maintained when you both have that space to choose your friends, make your own choices, decide on your own. Trust is something that nurtures your relation. Be an open book to each other. You need to make them feel secure same goes the other way around. This feeling has to grow within you. Does not matter even if you stay together or miles apart if there is no trust in a relationship the expected outcome is heading towards two different directions. Just like someone said if they intend to cheat they will do so anyhow, even when you are next to them and when they are loyal, nothing can sweep them off the grounds because their roots are deep into you. Experiences with bad past can sometimes hamper the present relation therefore before trusting others trust yourself that you will do justice to the relationship.

3. Time:

We live in a high tech world, where a press of a button is enough to do so many things. Some relation really need the help the technology is providing, because they are staying miles apart. The most convenient way for them to keep their relationship alive but some people really need to stop using their gadgets all the time and share some quality time with their loved ones. When you are giving someone your time; be fair and give them all of it without distraction. People always make time for the ones they care, even if it is just enough to say hi but they do. So if someone has an excuse of being busy all the time you can clearly see what the sign board holds. "Not Interested". Make sure to meet up every once in a while.

4. Support:

Yes, we all have those crazy ideas of what we want to do with our lives. There are also some really important ideas, the ideas that we think defines us for example working as a school teacher rather than a professor because this is what makes you happy. This may not be a good idea at many levels but you know that will make you happy. You will not only be happy but more enthusiastic when you have a supporting partner. There will be many phases when you need a supporting hand, you may be broke financially as well as emotionally a loyal partner will stick to you through your thick and thin. Sometimes it is your partner that needs support, one should do that without being judgemental. 

5. Action more than words:

A thousand "I LOVE YOU" will not suffice if he/she doesn't make you feel loved. He/she may not say they love you but they make you feel loved is more important in a relationship. Action speaks louder than words. We really need to look at how they make us feel rather than what they say they do. When you love somebody you should realise that you do not own them. So you should act like wise. Some people are adventure seekers the moment they have you the adventure is gone and will start looking for another adventure. You should not be afraid of moving out of such relation as soon as possible no matter how must they tell you they love you. You may not think but people always notice the sweet little gestures that you are making for them.

Tips: Have a glowing face

Have you ever wondered that there is always this one person who has everything going well even her skin. It is so perfect naturally. On the other hand we are in a mess so is our skin. Here are a few tips that could actually help you to have glowing skin. Some common mistakes that can actually lead to dull skin should be avoided.



1. Remove makeup:

Sleeping with your makeup on will not only make your skin look tired and dull in the morning it will also aid in skin aging. So always remove your make up before bed at any condition. In case you are tired keep wet tissues handy and at least wipe off the makeup before bed.

2. Right skin products:

Choosing right products is a must. You need to know what type of skin you have. It is of no use to use oil controlling products if you have a dry skin. So knowing your skin and using product that actually suit you will solve half of your skin problems. Invest in a cleanser that suits your skin. Cleansing is and essential part in obtaining a glowing skin. Products like toner, skin repairing creams, night cream and a sunscreen with the right spf is a must.



3. Water:


Water plays an essential role to maintain the skin moisture and deliver essential nutrients to the skin. It replenishes the skin tissue and increases its elasticity which delays the aging. It keeps the skin well hydrated and healthy giving you the glow.


4. Pillowcase:

One of the first thing you need to know about maintaining the glow is changing your pillowcase often. As pillow case often gets dirty and you spend 6 to 8 hours sleeping and proper sleep is a must for glowing skin. and a rough pillow cover is not going to aid you with your glowing skin. Go for something soft and satin. If your pillow irritates your skin, it will only lead in having rough skin. So choose your pillow case wisely.

5. Touching face often:

Touching your skin often leads to transfer of germs from your hands to your face. Leading to skin problems.


6. Food habits:

Fruits containing vitamin C, leafy vegetables, nuts, tomatoes,salmon, papaya, green tea, eggs etc should be included in your diet to actually help you get that glowing skin. What you consume also shows how your skin will turn out to be.

Tips: What not to do on your first date

Are you worried about your first date? Afraid things might go wrong? Are thoughts like what if she/he doesn't like me, haunting you? Then this post is definitely for you. Here are a few tips that will help you ace your first date that means you are going out on a second date too.



1. Gestures:

Sweet little gesture are something everybody likes and it is not gender specific. Do not go empty handed. A simple bunch of flowers should do the trick. Being on time is one of the most important and sweet gesture. Most women these days believe in doing their own stuffs but pulling a chair out for her always sways her. Ladies fall for chivalry. In turn a lady should always thank for the little gestures a man is putting in to show that you acknowledge them. While ordering do not force your wish on them, it is ok to suggest the food but let them order what they want. Always take their choices into consideration. Offer the menu first to your partner. Always offer to split the bill.

2. Be present:

Be present not just physically but mentally as well. When you are giving your time to them make sure you give it to them without distraction. They deserve your attention and they will feel appreciated when you give them their fair share. Nowadays people are out with their phone more than with their loved ones. So make sure you only take the very urgent calls, text or emails and do excuse yourself when you do. Just don't take a call when you are in middle of a conversation.

3. Do both listening and talking:

We tend to speak much when we are nervous. We do not realise that for a conversation there needs to be dialogues. I mean both the party should speak and listen. You do not want them to know all the seven generation of your family and in turn you only know their name. So you should listen to them as well as talk. Question them, but do not insist on knowing all the answers know when they are uncomfortable to share, change the topic. Be responsive towards their questions as well. Do not talk with the public. When I say this I mean keep your voice soft so that the other person who are there to eat can eat in peace. They needn't know you are present there. So do not be loud or scream for the waiting person. Just keep looking at that direction and raise a hand. Or many places have a bell to solve your this problem.

4. Treat the waiting person well:


The very thing that we notice about a person is how he treats someone not just who he or she is with. Be polite to the waiting persons. Know that it is not their fault the food is not good or the order is late. Have patience. Your treatment towards them always sets an impression on the person you are with. 

5. Be yourself:

The very first thing you need to stop is trying to be someone you're not. It is always a fear to be liked by the other that makes us try and act differently but that is not going to work in long race. You cannot forever keep wearing that mask, can you? Therefore calm down and be who you are. The perk about it is there will be this one person who will actually like you for who you are and they will always stick to that feeling.

6. See them off:

Once you are done with the date who ever is leaving first should be seen off well. You wouldn't want to keep the other person waiting to say goodbye and get yourself caught up in something and leave on your own. It will be like a great trailer and a flop movie. If you just leave like that. Make sure to call whether they have reached or not but do not over do it.

7. Dress comfortably:


You do not want to miss out the conversation just because you weren't so comfortable with you dress. You don't know where you end up going if things go smooth so always dress comfortably.

Tips: Valentine for singles

Do you also think that Valentine is only for the couples? Seems like we need to break that myth. Valentine is actually celebrating love. And all you need to do is to look around you to realise that you are loved. No, there isn't just one kind of love. You have your friends, your family, your pets who love you so much. So instead of staying back, locked in your room try going out this valentine. Here are some tips that will help you with your huge task.

1. Invest in a new dress:

Yes, there will be no one who would actually love you better than you love yourself. So this valentine invest on a new dress. Pamper yourself. Self love is the most important form of love. You dress so beautifully for someone than why not for yourself.




2. Flowers, chocolates and gifts:

No, it doesn't sound weird. All you need is to realise that you are worth everything.
So go ahead buy your favourite flower for that day, chocolates and gifts to lighten your day.




3. Hangout with friends:

You know, not everyone is going out that day. So get your gang together and hit your favourite spot. After all these friends have been there for you in all your ups and downs. They were there when you were in relationship and when you are single. So they deserve to be loved.

4. Go out with your parents:

Yes, you hardly get to spend time with your parents. So why not show them that you love them by arranging a little surprise for them. Your parents loved you from the day of you birth. Loved you when you were a mess.  Which love can be compared with such great love. You will be more happy when you actually give and become the reason for someone's happiness. You will be more content at the end of the day.

5. Movie:

Who can think of valentine without some good food and a movie. If you have friends to go with then consider yourself blessed but if not do not be sad. You are your best companion you could ever have. Go ahead buy a ticket, some edibles and enjoy the movie as well as your own company.

6. Visit an orphanage:

Valentine is the best day in the year to show love and what is better than showing love to the ones who know least about being loved. So visit the orphanage. I can guarantee you that the smiles will keep you motivated for rest of the year.

Tips: Make your Monday Mornings Awesome

Do you hate mondays ? Do you feel like mondays should never exists? Do you lack motivation on the very first day of your week? Well most of us do. But there is always a way if you have that will. The will to make most of your weekdays. It is definitely fine to wake up on the wrong side of your bed occasionally but do not make it a habit especially on mondays. Here are a few things you should do to improve your mood for your monday blues. 




1. Set an alarm: 

Definitely waking up to an alarm is something almost everyone hates but it can actually help your biological clock and you wake up before the alarm rings after a few days. Also changing your alarm tones can be helpful. Do not keep your alarm tone and your ringtone similar. It somehow makes you cranky when you get a call with the same ringtone as your alarm tone. Do not turn off your alarm even on weekends. It is fine to hit that close button and sleep on your weekends. Doing this you can prevent being irritated while turning on your alarms after weekends.


2. Solve things before bed:

Try not to leave your works undone before you go to bed. Do not go to bed angry or after a fight. Solve the problems of the particular day on that day itself. This will prevent your other days getting ruined by the same problem. Keep your work updated for your Monday morning so you feel ready . Look at it with enthusiasm. It will result as your attitude towards the day is. Always say that there is a whole new adventure waiting for you.

3. Music: 

Make it a habit of listening to song early in the morning. Do your own funny dance . Make the day bright by being happy. Happiness is always created by you. So learn what things make you happy and do the same each day. Have a set of happy  and energetic song list for your mondays. 





4. Look forward:


Make it a habit to look forward to mondays. It will turn out better than the mondays which you complain about. Try keeping something that you love doing at the end of the day of the mondays. So somehow you will have something to look forward to and your monday will automatically be good.




5. Make your breakfast:



Even if you are someone who grabs something in your way to office or anywhere you go to always, take time to cook something you like for the monday morning. You tend to get agitated when you are hungry. So do not waste your sunday evenings rather prepare for something you would love to eat early in the morning. Treat yourself well. You will definitely feel good about yourself as well as the day.


6. Keep things in order:

As the week may have passed by little busy and you couldn't  make time to stack things back in their order but do it before the new week begins. You will not find things that are out of their place when needed and you will be more angry if it happens on the monday morning, right? So before heading out for your friday or saturday night out put your things back in order. Stack your clothes. You can also make it a habit of coming back and putting things back in their place. But it is alright if things get messy at times. 

7. Auto suggestions: 

Wake up and say that ' I will shine bright today' ' This is my day' ' I will make most of it' ' I will win' ' I feel strong' ' I feel beautiful' it will make your day more beautiful. These auto suggestions will actually help you to improve your self esteem as well as make your day beautiful.








Tips: Have resolution that lasts

Do you make resolution and often forget it. Or are your resolution so out of reach, something totally out of your imagination. Do not worry we all are like you. We have resolution that we never fulfill. We often keep it aside after a few tries. Resolution in simple words just mean a strong will to do things we plan. Yet we lose this will as days move on. It is because our plans are just beyond our level to reach them. So it is necessary to have resolution that are realistic. Here are a few resolution that you should take this year.

1. Improve yourself:

Start with short term goals if you are someone who cannot stick to long term goals. Every day take a small step to improve yourself. Start with waking up early. Have a glass of water. Exercise. Have positive outlook for your day. Be glad. Praise others as well as self. Sleep on time. Stop comparing yourself. Live happily. Take charge. Stop blaming others. Be useful to self as well as to Nature. Realise it is time we put an effort to save Nature.


2. Walk:

This year take a resolution to walk and stay fit. If the distance is short try to give up the urge to board a vehicle. This will help you have some good time with yourself, if you are alone or increase the bond of your friendship if you have friends to walk with. 


3. Family time:

You may be close with your family or staying away. The modern technology has created a gap between us as well as brought us together. But this year make a resolution at least to put aside this technologies and have a good and quality time with your family members. You will see that you missed out on many things.


4. Stray animals:

If you can pet a stray animal. You will actually help the unloved one. But if you cannot pet them at least make an effort to feed them once a week. Trust me this will make your entire week blissful and happy.

5. Bucket list:

Go ahead make a bucket list of things that you want to do. Keep it realistic. And count how many ticks you get by the end of the year. Having a bucket list actually gives you things to look forward to.

Tips: Must do things at least once in your life

Life is itself an opportunity that we have. Every day you wake up there are people taking their final breath yet we never realize the value of this gift until it is too late and we are left with regrets. grab this opportunity and make most of it. Look forward to make your day most fulfilled and satisfying one. Do things that makes you happy. Stuck in a boring lifestyle? Actually nothing is as boring as you make it to be. Always have that curiosity in you that will make everything fun. You learn new things from everything you thought was boring. Here are actually a few things that you should do once in a life. Doing so not only gives you a thing to look forward to but also help you be excited about it. 
So

1. Travel alone:

Yes, what I mean by travel alone isn't just take a bus, a plane or a train alone. I actually mean is go to a new place or as many as you want on your own. Take all the actions required on your own. Book a hotel, take a cab, roam around. At least once in your lifetime do it on your own, be your own companion, enjoy your own company. Learn how to manage things on your own. Your money, learn how to invest and where to when you are travelling so that you do not end up broke. This will help you have confidence over other matters too. Be careful while choosing your destination if you are travelling alone for the first time. States like Sikkim should be in your bucket list for the first timers.

2. Watch the sunrise and sunset:

You do not have to be on a beach to enjoy these natural phenomena. They occur everyday. So take your time out of the busy schedule, grab a cup of your favourite coffee and enjoy the sunset from your own terrace if it is visible or make a little effort to capture it. When I say capture it I do not mean from your camera rather from your eyes and get drenched on the joy of it. As for the morning sunrise you need to wake up early than the sun. Know what timings do the sun rise at your locality and try to wake up because this is one of the satisfying thing you shouldn't miss in your life.
 
3. Enjoy the rain:

It is time you get yourself wet. It is much satisfying when you have a friend to enjoy with. Trust me such moments will be remembered forever. Even if you do not want to get wet. Try catching the raindrops. The sensation can actually not be put into words. So either you enjoy the weather with a warm beverage or be part of it the next time when you actually do not have an umbrella. Instead of staying back and waiting for rain to stop. Have a little ball with the rain.

4. Ride or drive:

Nothing can beat your blues as easily as the long ride or a drive. So learn to either ride or drive so that you can go anywhere you want to without actually waiting for anything. 


5. Race:

Race at least once. May be just a race where you run, a marathon or a car race.
You win or you lose but do not give up. Reach the finishing line and be proud of yourself. You can have  friendly race with your friends as you did when you were kids. It will be fun.




6. Bungee jumping:

No matter how scary it sounds it is definitely one of the things that you must try. Nothing beats the feeling of it.






7. Cook:

We daily cook our meals three times a day but you can always create new things. Do not be afraid to try new combination. Try cooking something that you always order on your visits to restaurants. Do not just settle for anything that comes on your table. Try out the hidden chef in you.



8. Watch a movie alone:

Have you cancelled your plans for the movies because your friends backed out?
Next time that happens do not be afraid to try it on your own. This will not only give you your time with yourself but also take away the fear of being alone. It is time you go on a movie date with yourself.

9. Hiking/trekking:

Do not miss out on this adventurous thing. Gather your friends and plan for a hike doesn't matter if it is just  nearby destination or a far one as long as you are doing it. This is the best time one can have if he/she is a nature lover. Here you actually become part of Nature.

10. Gardening:

Time to get your hands dirty. Sow some flowers, water them, provide the proper manure. Planting or gardening actually help you in keeping patience, gives you joy when you see your hard work blossom.




11. Own a pet:

This is a actually a must do thing in your life. Owning a pet will not only help you be more responsible but also help you keep happy most of the time. 



12. Visit an old age home or an orphanage:

Not all people are as lucky as you are. Show some love to them. Visit them often and make them feel loved. When you give you get happiness in return.