When we are in relation we are in each others life, their major decisions, their likes,their dislikes. We are so much into each other that we tend to make mistakes. Mistakes which we do not realize until relation becomes messy.
So here are a few point you need to know and rectify your mistakes on time.

1. Dependency:

Once in a relationship we become dependent on each other so much that we take the other persons effort for granted. Its always good to make each other feel wanted . It is always good to let your male partner know that he is needed, that there are things he can do for you but do not depend on him so much that you make him feel you are worthless . At the same time do not depend on your female partner so much that she feels like you are a loser. There should be healthy dependency on each other to give you a very strong relation.

2. Friend circle:

When you get into relationships the greatest mistakes we commit is we cut off out friends circle. It is always good to have something going apart from the relation. Do not lose your friends.
It is OK to have some boy's time or girl's time. This will keep you both happy and the relation will be happy. The time apart will make you miss each other a little more

3. Space:

Yes, we tend to become like the one we love. We are so much into each other that we hardly have the personal space. If one isn't happy he or she will be unable to put effort as much as she could when he or she is happy and content. This space is very important. It is always OK to have some "ME" time in between the things that are happening. When this happen do not think the other is running away just realize that they need some time for  themselves and you need some for yourself. Learn and enjoy  spending time with yourself too.

4. Not having conversations about dissatisfaction with the partner:

In every relation there comes a time when one isn't satisfied with the decision, doings, talks, or may be not putting effort as much as other. The mistake we do is by not telling our significant other who actually is responsible to bring the required changes rather we talk to everybody about it but not to them. The other doesn't even know whats wrong half of the time. Instead of wasting time in "find out what is wrong game" you can actually talk and sort things out.

5. Romance:

This usually decreases with comfort. Once we are comfortable with our partner we do not usually put effort like we did when we were courting each other. The number of "I Love You" decreases as we expect them to understand. We hardly buy them flowers, chocolates as in the beginning.
We just assume that the other one knows. Relationship becomes stronger over time as romance is kept alive.
Compliment each other frequently.
Flirt with each other.
Surprise them as you used to.
Cook something they love.

6. Taking for granted or being taken granted for:

One of the worst phase of relation is of being taken for granted.  When we aspect them to be enjoying what they did for us rather then seeing the actual effort they put in. It is love to do things for our loved once but it will improve next time when you see the effort one has put into it. May be cooking for you in the morning, if they chose they could have slept a little longer.

Cleaning after you leave. You expect they should do it but can chose not to. That is why respect each effort the other is putting for you. Thank them often. Praise them. Make them happy by liking the things they do for you. In return you can put a little effort by helping  them with what they are doing.if they are doing this for you they will try to put more effort in it. if they are doing it for themselves they will be enthusiastic about it. To be taken for granted is he worst  feeling one can have. It will destroy them from inside and the relation from outside. always value your partner like you did in early phase of love. If not let them go.

7. Expectation:

its a mistake we usually make as we tend to expect so much from our partners unknowingly that we get disheartened  when things do not turn out the way we expect. we can reduce this by actually telling them what we want or what we are looking for . No one is a mind reader the faster you understand this the better for you.

8. Not talking about finance:

This is one of the main aspect you should be talking about. We hide our money problems which later becomes more problematic. Talk to your partner about your loss, raise, debt e.t.c so the other can put in an effort to help you. If not help at least not to be financially depended on you for time being. This honesty will help you in long run in your relationship.


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